This guy had huge teeth. Very nice, decent guy but he had some serious Mr. Ed action going on. I met him in the bar at Canyon’s Restaurant where alcoholic drinks were imbibed. This was the start of my guideline that alcohol is a great social lubricant and should be consumed on a first meeting if at all possible. I have had to add an addendum, though, that there is a two-drink maximum because, any more than that, and anyone becomes more attractive. I need to have a little bit of good judgement left standing.
Aside from his choppers, Scott was very decent. He was easy to talk to, took great pleasure in ordering the corn fritters with honey and butter and had been around the dating block. I have no idea how many ladies had come before me but it sounded like he had some experience with the ‘trying to find a girlfriend’ bit. He mentioned that he belonged to a group of Seattle Singles that did different activities and that he had recently been to Costa Rica (!!!) with a group of singletons. He was definitely no rube. He also mentioned that he loved to bake, owned his own house and had a fairly good job with city government. So, he was decent enough that I decided another date was in order.
For some reason we decided to meet for coffee on a workday which I vowed never to repeat. I have to answer my cell phone for work so it and my message book sat on the table and it just cast a bad shadow over the whole thing. Weekend coffee dates are fine but during the workday? Not again. I am not a huge coffee or food snob but I do make a note of what someone orders. Scott got coffee cake and an iced mocha. Sugar rush! I am a healthy eater, more or less, so that didn’t impress me much. He then proceeded to complain about how expensive Starbucks was and that he had to break the habit before he went broke, blah, blah, blah… My cheapskate flags started to go up. Neither of us could stay long (another reason not to do a date during work hours) so he threw out going to a Mariners game together. I LOVE baseball and the Mariners but a game is a loooong time to have to talk to someone if it is at all awkward. I would never, ever, ever go to that long of event for a first date but a third…. hmmm….. I told him I would look at my schedule and get back to him. After this second meeting I was feeling a little wary. He was still nice and decent but I was not feelin’ the sparks and the cheap talk had gotten to me a little bit. While I was mulling over what to do he sent me an email about the Mariners game and how we would take the bus there because parking at the stadium is so expensive. Uhhhh, it really isn’t that expensive, at all, and definitely not enough to make us take a bus trip on a date. I am not an elitist or a snob or a prima donna but this was a little too much. Scott’s spendthrift ways combined with the lack of spark and those big teeth was a deadly combination. I wrote Scott the same sort of email that I would eventually learn to not send, i.e. I am not ready to date, and he was pretty cool about it. He sent me an email back that he was disappointed but understood. I was caught, again, by him when he saw me still on Match a few months later and sent another wink. Note to self – if you say you aren’t ready to date it is best not to remain active on a dating website.